Can Grunge Be Glam, Too?!

Hey everyone!

So, my first ever fashion post that I uploaded last week seem to surpass any success I imagined it’d have and it was my best day for views on my blog ever! I just want to thank anyone who’s given it a read/view or said any kind words about it as I was so nervous to put it up but I’m feeling so much more confident about doing more now. Hence my second fashion post coming so soon after it! If you haven’t had a snoop at how I’ve been styling my new Dr Martens x Lazy Oaf boots, the post can be found here. This post however is going to be a bit more of a talk/rant about experience with my fashion journey rather than just clothes.

Ever since I was about 12, I’ve never dressed quite like the typical “girl” stereotype. I think a big part of it was to do with the fact I got into rock and alternative music at that age and the people I were looking up to were wearing black, tartan, studs and leather. As a result, this ended up in me wanting to be wearing those things too. I mean any 12 year old emo girl in their right mind wanted to be Hayley Williams, right? (I still want to be her now) I also made myself up in some very questionable eyeliner and backcombed and died my hair to the high heavens. I dread to think about some of the states I went out in…

Because of the way I dressed and did my makeup and the music I listened to, despite having posters of lots of men covered in tattoos all over my walls, my family still ended up assuming I was in fact a lesbian. I don’t think they ever fully believed me when I said I wasn’t, until I got with Jake. I think a lot of people around me also assumed it was a phase and that I’d grow out of it and become a fully fledged sequin-sporting girly girl at some point. Which don’t get me wrong, a lot of people do and there’s nothing wrong with that but I always knew that wasn’t me. I was destined for tattoos and damaged, dodgy hair.

Outfit/photo details:
All photos taken by Becky Elen
Grey Tartan Trousers: Zara
Cropped Burgundy Longsleeve: H&M
Sleeveless Leather Jacket: Topshop
Black Boots: Dr Martens x Lazy Oaf Collection

Sunglasses: Unknown

As I’ve gotten older, I wouldn’t say my style has so much changed as developed into a better and more socially acceptable version of it. I do wear the odd girly thing now which I love and feel pretty in but I’m still a big fat goth at heart (ha). I still want to be covered in tattoos and I’m so excited for when the treatment for my illness is settled so I can start to get inked again as I’m so desperate to finish my sleeve and get working on a big ass back piece. My insides still sparkle when I see tartan and leather combined in one item of clothing or when I see shoes with soles triple the thickness of normal ones.

But, as you know, my question today is: can grunge be glam? Or even girly for that matter? And my answer is, well why the hell not? It does baffle me sometimes that I still manage to get weird looks in the street for what I’m wearing, especially when nowadays I buy most of it on the high street. That I still manage to get criticised on my tattoos or my coloured hair not being normal or “womanly” enough. That I still don’t have approval from friends/family/whoever for how I want to present myself and how I choose to look. I LOVE my style and I think it suits me better than any other because it’s me and it gives me confidence.

Combining the two makes me feel feminine but fierce and that’s just the way I like it. I love leather, I love tartan, I love fishnets and buckles and whatever the hell else I fancy wearing. I also love making my hair look presentably messy and wearing pretty makeup and maybe throwing in some pink or rose gold every now and again. I think the more alternative and grunge inspiration has been slowly creeping into popular clothing styles over the past few years too. For example, lace up and ripped clothing, chunky black boots and more dark and daring makeup otherwise known as all the things I got made fun of for wearing in school.

But anyway, why is grunge fashion more exclusively for men? I’m done with being labelled as manly, I’m done with the odd looks and I’m done with the judgement. Regardless of what anyone thinks I look like, my style and my choices make me feel like a strong, attractive, empowered and pretty badass woman. Thankfully I feel like I’m at a place in my life where I’m sure about myself and confident enough to wear what I want and be who I want without feeling I have to apologise for it, and I’m hoping that never changes. And if one day I want to wear a long frilly bright pink dress, I’ll do that too. My body my rules.

Are you confident in how you present yourself and do you truly wear what you want?

’Til Next Time,
BTB Xx

42 Comments Add yours

  1. Liz says:

    Love this post again Alice, you are smashing it atm! I Iove your fashion style and it really suits you! Being confident in what you wear and how you look is different for everyone and as long as you’re confident and you like it, that is all what matters! Looking gorgeous in the photos
    Liz xx

    1. blacktulipbeauty says:

      Thank you so much Liz, I appreciate that so much!! It really is important to love what you wear, a lot of confidence comes from it! Thank you ❤️ xx

  2. Andrew says:

    Great shout for freedom Alice!

    1. blacktulipbeauty says:

      Thank you so much Andrew! Glad you enjoyed!

  3. Melina says:

    I loved this post. I feel, like I’m really getting to know you! I went through a rock phase. It was so much fun playing around with style. This phase made me feel so confident and kick-ass. While I did grow out of this phase, there are parts that I still keep with me. My hair is still bleached super white, which I occasionally dye fun colors.
    As I’ve grown older, I feel like I’ve definitely kept some of the rock influence that I’ve always loved. Like you, I love tartan and leather. I love chunky soles. I definitely think Grunge can be glam! I used to read magazines, and that actually used to be a style when I was in high school! Great post! I love love loved it xx

    Melina | melinaelisa.com

    1. blacktulipbeauty says:

      Thank you so much for such a lovely comment! I feel like it’s always been a style that has been ridiculed and made fun of despite some of it coming into mainstream fashion – I’m not entirely sure why! Xx

  4. Miranda says:

    You’ve always had my approval 🙂 x

    1. blacktulipbeauty says:

      Well that’s good then because I’m not changing hehe x

  5. Katie Henry says:

    I love your style! It’s definitely not what I wear but it looks great on you. The most important thing is being confident in your style no matter what it is. Thanks for sharing x

    1. blacktulipbeauty says:

      Thank you very much ❤️ I definitely agree! X

  6. Sophie says:

    I LOVE this. I 100% have my own style down and while I still wear some trend pieces, it definitely has to fit with my general style. I’ve worn a monochrome outfit, a red lip and eyeliner basically every day since I was about 16. Most of my clothes are slightly tailored and my style hasn’t really changed in a decade. At 23 that doesn’t look quite as odd as it did at 15, but that’s me. Nothing looks better than someone who is truly confident/ comfortable in their outfit, whatever the style. Ps I love those trousers and your makeup ALWAYS looks beautiful x

    Sophie
    http://www.glowsteady.co.uk

    1. blacktulipbeauty says:

      I think a lot of the time, once you find something you love you kinda stick to it bar the odd “not you” thing that you come across and try out. Aww yeah I agree, it’s nice seeing someone super confident in theirself and their style! Thank you so much, that’s such a lovely compliment! ❤️ x

  7. Laura says:

    You look amazing!! Those tartan trousers are a dream. I love patterned trousers on other people, I’m just not sure I’m brave enough to wear them myself!

    Laura x
    #BloggersTribe

    1. blacktulipbeauty says:

      Aww thank you, that’s so sweet! You should deffo get yourself some, be brave!! X

  8. Alys George says:

    The answer to your question is YES. You rock this so much I seriously envy you!

    You look stunning in these photos X

    Alys / alysgeorge.blogspot.co.uk

    1. blacktulipbeauty says:

      This is such a lovely compliment, thank you so much! ❤️ x

  9. Aaliyah says:

    Love this post and your photos are really pretty! I love your style, not sure if I’d pull it off but it’s great! X

    1. blacktulipbeauty says:

      Thank you so much!! You could always try heh x

  10. Leann Kelly says:

    I’m loving your fashion posts luv. Great outfit & those trousers are fab. This is how I imagine my outfit to look & the reality is always disappointing ha. I shall be following for more tips.

    1. blacktulipbeauty says:

      Aww thank you! I do love the trousers. I’m sure you look great but thank you! X

  11. Oh my god, you gorgeous girly and those beautiful boots have made an appearance yet again – I am actually obsessed with them and I wish I’d picked them up myself! 😍 I bloody love Hayley Williams, and I have done since forever, but my style has only really changed in the last few years – I’d now probably describe myself as a ‘big fat goth’ as well! 😂🤷🏼‍♀️ I don’t think I’ve ever said it, but I absolutely adore your tattoos and I feel like mine have given me so much more confidence over the last few years because I think they’re pretty even on days when I think I’m not! There are a lot of things I wish I was confident enough to wear, but it’s less about confidence, and more about the fact I don’t think they suit my body type, if that makes sense? Maybe I just need to lose my inhibitions and go for it.. 😇

    1. blacktulipbeauty says:

      Hehe you’re such a sweetheart, the boots are my best pals now ❤️ hahaha I call myself big fat goth whilst Jake calls me “goth queen” bit nicer xo oh god yeah me too, I used to hate my arms soo much until I started getting tattooed and now I’ve definitely learned to almost-like my left one hahaha. Yeah that 100% makes sense, I still get that with a lot of clothes, especially gothic ones as they’re super tight and make of weird materials so they make me self-conscious as hell! But yeah you should girl, you’d rock it! X

  12. Jade says:

    Love this!! 🙌🏼💛 I’ve always been into rock, tattoos, piercings….basically anything alternative and gothic 🙊 my dad banned me from looking how I wanted to (strict family) so I’ve never been able to dress like I wanted to…minus the super thick black eyeliner I used to wear haha think it’s about time I started to embrace the fashion style I love and not be worried what people will say!

    You look lovely in these photos as always! ☺️ Xx

    Jade | jademarie.co.uk

    1. blacktulipbeauty says:

      You should DEFINITELY embrace your true style, I feel like it can make people so unhappy to try and be someone they’re not, no matter how small it may seem! It’s so important to be yourself on the outside aswell as the inside. And thank you so much ❤️ xx

  13. Eena says:

    To answer the question – YES. Grunge can be glam; in fact, any fashion trend can be glam if you want it to be glam! Loved reading this post and I’m loving your outfit! Also, your hair is so cute!

    cabin twenty-four

    1. blacktulipbeauty says:

      That’s true! Thank you so much for the lovely comment ❤️

  14. Anything can be glam, including grunge! Love this look and the post!

    http://beyondimagination12.blogspot.co.uk/

    1. blacktulipbeauty says:

      Yesss I agree! Thank you for reading ❤️

  15. Nancy says:

    YES! Grunge looks can be glam too – love your outfit! I’m glad you love the way you are. I don’t think you’re manly at all. Still think you’re gorgeous and still feminine the way you are!

    exquisitely.me

    1. blacktulipbeauty says:

      Thank you so much, it has taken a while but I’m embracing it now! Thank you, that’s such a sweet comment ❤️ x

  16. I LOVE THIS POST ALICE!! You’re one of the girliest/glam goths I know and I love it!! I think it takes years to truly know what you like to wear and your own style, but it’s always evolving and I think never stops! I think I’m a bit of a closet grunge fashion lover and didn’t realise until I was in my early twenties when it started to creep into my wardrobe (and my late to the party Hayley Williams obsession started 😂).
    Loving the fashion posts lovely! ❤️❤️❤️

    1. blacktulipbeauty says:

      Hehe thank you ya big sweetie! Oh god yeah I agree, there are things in my wardrobe that I think umm why did I wear that hahaha and things I buy now I wouldn’t have been caught dead in a year ago! Hayley Williams obsessions comes at all ages, she’s a BABE! ❤️❤️

  17. Katy says:

    You look lovely, really rocking it! The world would be a very boring place if we were wll the aame 😍

    1. blacktulipbeauty says:

      Thank you very much and I definitely agree! ❤️

  18. Jasmine says:

    I love grungy glam, I think the patterns and textures of the clothing works really well together. As a teen I went through that “emo” phase and people did look down their nose at me for wear it. I feel it’s more “acceptable” now (i hate saying that, it’s clothes why wouldn’t that be acceptable) and in my opinion, your style is hella hot

    PS I still wanted to be hayley williams too!!

    1. blacktulipbeauty says:

      I think it’s more acceptable depending on how you wear it – I’d still say I’m dressed quite normal in these photos whereas if I wore something a little more out there I’m sure the comments may be a little less positive haha! Thank you so much girl ❤️

  19. You definitely should feel confident in what you wear and your personal style totally suits you! I hate the judgement people give/receive from wearing something remotely ‘different’ – I like to think my style is pretty understated, but sometimes I want to wear something a little more ‘out there’ and I’m scared to because of odd looks and necessary judgement – we’re in 2018 for goodness sake, shouldn’t this stop now?! Loved this post Alice and I’m so glad you’re starting to feel more comfortable and confident sharing your fashion posts xo

    Char | http://www.charslittleblog.co.uk

  20. Lily says:

    If I could wear what I want I would need a lot skinnier body and a bigger bank account haha! You are rocking this outfit though and I’m loving your hair!! So nice to see different styles as I’m so used to the typical blogger trend outfit posts and never get to see uniqueness in people xx

    Lily | The Wellbeing Edit

  21. You style is amazing 😍😍 don’t anyone tell you otherwise! I remember wanting to buy a pair of dr martens when I was in school but was worried people would judge me. Then they became “fashionable” and it really annoyed me haha

  22. Alice says:

    I’m SO glad you’re doing more fashion posts because I was in love with your last one and you look amazing in this one too. I just wish I could pull off the things you wear! The trousers are my favourite, I’m loving tartan/checkered stuff at the moment. I’m glad you’ve gotten more confident and comfortable in your style, so you should be! You’re killing it xx

    Alice | http://www.accordingtoalicex.com

Leave Me A Comment!

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.