Altering Social Media To Help Your Mental Health!

17th March 2019

Hey everyone!

There seems to be a lot of talk recently about how social media is really affecting mental health and twisting realities of what life should be/is like. I do agree with it to a certain extent but of course recognise there are so many other factors contributing to the increase in people with mental health problems, too. Global warming, corrupt leaders/governments, economy collapsing and poverty being at an all time high being but a few… However, I don’t really want to list all the things I’m terrified of in this post! Let’s talk social media.

Personally, social media does and has affected my mental health. I can’t be specific as I don’t fully know to what extent but over the past year or so I’ve had to alter the way that I use and absorb it. Here are the ways I’ve found that have best benefitted me!

Altering Social Media To Help Your Mental Health

Don’t Check Social Media First Thing In The Morning

I noticed a significant difference in my productivity and mood when I left a decent amount of time between waking up and checking social media, particularly Instagram. You can end up scrolling aimlessly for the longest time without even realising and viewing all these perfectly made up people when you’re sat in bed like a potato isn’t always the biggest boost for the day. I do check my text messages as only my closest friends and family have my mobile number so I’m happy to talk to them first thing.

Turn Off Most/All Notifications

I’ve had this done for a long time, all my social media accounts notifications are turned off so that I only see them when I go on the actual apps. When you have notifications constantly clogging up your phone, it can make you anxious and feel as if you need to reply as soon as you can. I also don’t want to constantly be thinking about my social medias which is what these notifications tend to make me do. I’ve definitely felt a lot more relaxed since doing this!

Unfollow/Mute People Who Bring Negativity

This doesn’t necessarily mean people who are openly negative. I just mean if someones content makes you feel negative about your life, yourself or quite frankly anything, it’s probably time to remove them. Sometimes it can be someone you know personally or someone it would cause problems with to altogether unfollow/delete so luckily most social medias now have the mute option so their posts will no longer come up on your feed.

Try Not To Worry About Peoples Lack Of Support

This is one I see brought up a lot on Twitter in the blogging community. Most of the time it’s something along the lines of, “If your friends aren’t liking your posts, then they’re not your friends”. I’ve got to say, I do struggle with my stance on this argument. I have friends who I’m really close to who don’t like all of my posts but I don’t lose sleep over it. I think something we forget is that some people don’t spend a lot of time online. Also with the algorithm, it can be difficult to see things when there are so many other people posting. Although saying that, something I’ve learnt is that there are also some people who won’t engage with your posts purposefully. Not everyone is going to like you or be happy about your success/path in life. But that’s also something you can’t control, so there’s no point worrying about it. Cherish the people who do cheer for you!

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Remember That Connecting And Engaging Is More Important Than Numbers

Lets be real, the algorithm changes suck. It seems like just when everyones settling into it and figuring out ways to get their posts seen, it changes again, leaving us all wondering why we bother. I used to think followers and likes were the be all and end all but they’re really not. I don’t know about you but I’d honestly much rather have a small amount of followers who take an interest, talk to me and properly engage with my Instagram/blog posts rather than a large amount who just like a pretty picture and scroll past. This doesn’t mean I expect them to be commenting and loving every single thing I post, just that it’s real nice to know they’re actually interested in what I have to say.

Talk Civilly Or Block Instead Of Argue

I haven’t had many online arguments but they’re pretty unavoidable if you’re putting yourself, your opinions and quite a bit of your life online. I’m not one that likes to argue at all, It stresses me out and who needs that? If I’ve done something wrong then I’m happy for someone to message/explain to me in a civil and calm way what’s going on. I’m not an unreasonable person and I’m not under any sort of crazy belief that I don’t make mistakes, lapses in judgement or unintentionally cause offence so I’d prefer to know. I’d much rather apologise and move forward. We’re all growing, we can all do wrong and it’s silly to think otherwise. I do not however deal with people anymore who are aggressive, narrow-minded or come at me raging like a bull. The block button is there and I have and will continue to use it. I recommend you do too if you don’t want to entertain someones childish attitude/approach.

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Limit Time Online

I think it’s really difficult as a blogger/influencer as you’re expected to constantly be checking your accounts and emails just incase. It’s really important to have time away from it though, as it is with anything. I’d definitely recommend setting a time limit or putting aside dedicated time slots to be online. Some ideas could be if you have 20 minutes spare, go and socialise online and set an alarm for when you need to come off to go and do something else. Or maybe setting time slots, for example saying you’re going to post/socialise/comment on other peoples blogs from 7-9 in the evening and then writing some posts or reading a book before bed, away from social media.

I think the main thing here is to try not to let the worry about your social media presence make your mental health or real life deteriorate. Your real life is WAY more important!!! Incase you needed the reminder. I’ve made some great friends and have received some great support online and it’s made me realise that the people that matter and care aren’t going to be mad if I take some time off or a bit longer to reply to them.

Do you have any other tips for altering social media to help your mental health?

’Til Next Time,

15 responses to “Altering Social Media To Help Your Mental Health!”

  1. Girly Gabble says:

    I completely agree with your tips! Especially not checking social media first thing in the morning and turning off notifications. I find once I’m on social media I’m on it all day so it really helps to not get into bad habits.

    Lozza xo

  2. glowsteady says:

    I feel like this is a “everything you should do but don’t” kind of post for me. I have to have my notifications on otherwise I can literally go days without opening an app but they do get so annoying sometimes. I have muted a few people recently in order to make my social media experience more enjoyable. So true about connection rather than numbers as well. I’d much rather ask a question and get genuine answers rather than sit there with way more followers and get nothing back! Great post x


  3. I hugely agree with so many of your points! I can’t quite pinpoint all the negative things I’ve felt about social media, sometimes it just doesn’t feel right, but it definitely has a negative impact on my mood. I’m going to try and implement some of these things and hope it improves!

  4. Emma says:

    Totally agree. I’m quick to unfollow accounts which make me feel like crap and I’m curating my feed to encourage positivity. I highly recommend accounts like Emily Coxhead and The Happy Newspaper. Fiona Thomas is awesome too – she’s got a podcast and her book Depression in a Digital Age is fab.

  5. Yep totally agree! Check social media can be a pain so I aviod it in morning and last thing at night. I used to put myself under to much pressure blogging, much more relaxed now.

    Mel 🌙 | Moonlight Mel

  6. I don’t think social media has ever had a negative affect on my mental health, but it definitely hasn’t had a positive one. I’m not really affected with what i see and i do really enjoy social media, even if i do spend a bit too much time on it!

  7. Extracts of Alex says:

    I really agree with this post! Sometimes, it’s hard to get the balance right being a blogger. After reading this, i’m going to try and incorporate your tips more!

  8. Ruth says:

    YES to ALL of this! I’m trying really hard to not go on social media first thing in the morning, but I still have a tendency to lie in bed for at least 20 minutes, just scrolling through Twitter. The days when I manage to resist, I see a big difference in my productivity. Also, “If your friends aren’t liking your posts, then they’re not your friends” – I’m glad you’ve brought this up. I missed so much stuff on Instagram and it wasn’t ever intentional, but it wasn’t showing up in my feed. And there are other times when I feel so guilty that I don’t have time to read people’s blog posts and things like that, so I think it’s not always as black and white as people make out.

  9. Everything you said is so true! Especially focusing more on connecting and engaging rather than thinking about the numbers, it’s possible to get so lost in the numbers sometimes but it’s so much more rewarding when someone takes the time to interact with you and your content. I don’t scroll through social media the first thing in the morning either and I think it helps a lot, I need to try to stop scrolling before bed as well! Great post as always lovely xx

  10. Tiffany says:

    Unfollowing and unfriending people is something that I recently started doing a lot on facebook, and it feels amazing. I also started unliking newpages that the comments would be upsetting and not good to see, and that has really helped a lot.

    I think that that is good point, I remember when I first started my site I was so upset because I would engage a lot with my friends on different social media and they couldn’t even like my fb page for my site to support me, but in the end it turned out to be a good thing.

    I think that blocking right off the bat is honestly the best way to go when someone is wanting to argue online, especially if they are just trolling, being rude, or just trying so hard to not see where you are coming from.

    I think that this is a great thing to discuss, and I’m glad that you made a blog about it.

  11. Jesica says:

    these tips are SUPER great. I did the mute notifications thing and it has helped me so much! Still working on to not look at my phone first thing in the morning tho! Thanks for sharing these tips! :)x

  12. I’m so late letting you know but this post has REALLY helped me out since I reading it when you first posted it. The main thing that’s really helped me is muting all my notifications, my phone actually said the other day that my screen usage time has gone down dramatically since I’ve done it because I spend way less time checking things. It’s so much better catching up on things when I choose to, rather than constantly having everything open. I’ve started taking my time on my commute to catch up with text messages/talking to people rather than scrolling through Instagram and Twitter as it just makes me feel much happier. If I ever see drama happening now, I usually just unfollow whoever is involved because I don’t need that negativity in my feed, I’ve got better things to be focusing on! I love your attitude towards social media, more people need to realise that there’s a life outside of their screen.

    Alice xx

  13. I noticed one of my posts in your shot haha! I really need to take some of these tips on board – turning off notifications is definitely something I need to do, there’s nothing worse than drifting off to sleep and hearing the dreaded buzz from your phone with a notification, but you don’t want to put your phone on night mode “just in case there’s an emergency” (not that I can remember one for years that wasn’t my sister wanting a lift home lol. I think a good tip is to only follow people that make you feel good, if you’re getting envious about someone’s lifestyle so much, like you said the unfollow button is there for a reason xxx

  14. Amazing post! I’ve definitely learnt that social media can play a negative effect on my mental health this year for a variety of reasons. The main one is seeing all these people doing amazing things and going amazing places and feeling totally bored with my own life. In the moment you don’t think that these people are showing you their highlights and not their behind the scenes! Sometimes when I see other people achieving things I wish I had achieved or are trying to achieve, my mental health plummets because I end up feeling insignificant in comparison. Social media is definitely a blessing and a curse! I’m trying to limit my screen time 🙂


  15. sophhearts says:

    I think that the majority of people have been negatively affected by social media in at least one way. These are really amazing tips and I definitely always have to remind myself that it’s not always about numbers. I think that instantly blocking any negativity and avoiding drama and arguments is 100% the way to go.
    Soph – x

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