Everyday Ways To Improve Self Confidence!

11th November 2018

Hey everyone!

It’s been a while since I uploaded a lifestyle post and I’ve currently got quite a few in the works, too. I enjoy reading and writing self-help posts like these as I find everyone has different tips and even if they are similar, they are portrayed differently. I hope anyone struggling with their self confidence finds this useful!

Noticing Your Negative Thoughts And Trying To Change Them

We ALL have them. There’s a type of therapy called Cognitive Behavioural Therapy that I’ve had a few encounters with where the therapist tries to get you to look at the way you think about things and change it. For every negative thought you have, try to actively recognise it and change and challenge it to be a bit more positive. For example, “I feel ugly today” could be, “what makes me feel prettier?”, DO that thing. “I make so many mistakes” could be, “I’ve learned a lot of lessons from my mistakes and am constantly improving myself”, which is true – everybody makes mistakes but they teach us valuable lessons. “I can’t afford this thing that I really want” could be, “if I keep working hard, one day I’ll be able to afford this thing”. The mind is a powerful thing.

Getting To Know Yourself Builds Self Confidence

I think a lot of self-confidence issues can root from feeling like you don’t know who you are or where you’re headed. As human beings, ourselves and our paths are constantly changing and sometimes it’s important if we feel a bit lost to sit down and reaffirm our behaviours, priorities, morals and goals. This can make you feel a lot more positive about yourself and your life if you at least have a vision of what you want, who you are and what you have to offer.

Having An Appearance That You Like

This kind of ties in with the last one. I don’t think it’s essential to have a signature look as I dress differently all the time. Although I do think it’s important to have a look or style that you’re happy with. Your appearance should give you self confidence and if it doesn’t then you can change small things to help that. I don’t think people should feel like they have to dress a certain way for their figure but I’d definitely say to wear pieces that you personally feel compliment your body. If you go out in clothes that you don’t feel confident or comfortable in, it can ruin your outing because you feel like everyone is looking at you (trust me, I know).

Possibly experiment with something different in the makeup or hair area or even get yourself some new shoes! Even though no one else can see it, don’t underestimate the power of a new, well-fitting and sassy set of underwear, too. It’s surprising how small appearance changes can make you feel much better.

Working On Parts Of Yourself You Think You Could Improve

I’m ALL about self-acceptance just as you are. Saying that, nobody is perfect. If there are parts of you physically, mentally, personality-wise etc. that you think could be a little better then make a plan to improve them. Recognising your faults and working on yourself instead of saying “that’s just who I am” is an important part of maturing. Being an honest and all-round nicer person will make you feel much better about yourself.

Do Kind Things For Others

Doing kind things in general does make us feel good and although it doesn’t make it completely selfless, who cares?! If you’re doing a good deed and it makes you feel good then it’s a winning situation for both parties. I uploaded a post a while containing some simple kindness acts here if you’d like a bit of inspiration. You don’t necessarily need money, paying compliments, supporting people, taking part in a charity event – the possibilities are endless. When someone has a kind act done for them, they also feel more inclined to pay it forward which is fabulous.

Finding An Exercise You Like

For some reason, a lot of people roll their eyes when you bring up exercise as a solution to something. I find most of these people have never actually tried thinking of it as a positive thing. Admittedly, It can be hard which is exactly why I’ve said to find an exercise you like. Running isn’t for everyone (I bloody hate it), so try a dance class or yoga. Exercising is an incredible thing for the body, it boosts your mood, reduces health risks and makes you feel like you’ve accomplished something. If your weight is an issue, it can also help improve that with the right diet, too.

Do you have any tips for improving self confidence?

All photographs by Rebeca Elen: Blog/Facebook/Insta

’Til Next Time,

9 responses to “Everyday Ways To Improve Self Confidence!”

  1. CBT is something thats such a good way to change your thought pattern but i struggled to get along with it and a total of about 12 weeks of cbt didnt do anything for me but im all for doing kind things for other people, even if its just a smile!

    • blacktulipbeauty says:

      I feel that, multiple courses with different people didn’t help me but I think it’s much more about either doing it when you’re in the right headspace or finding a way that works for you as I manage my anxiety a lot better now I’m older with more life experience and determination x

      • Yes! I feel like i was too deep within my mental health issues that i just didnt wanna get help because i was so stubborn that talking about my problems and trying to change the way i think wouldnt work at all!x

  2. You gorgeous, gorgeous girl – you in all these pictures, but especially your hair.. 😍 Your first point is my absolute favourite! I learnt it through CBT as well, and it’s helped so much in so many areas, I genuinely think it should be taught to everyone regardless of whether they suffer with depression and anxiety because I think it could help so many others as well 🙊 ‘Do kind things for others’ reminds me of Roald Dahl in The Twits – ‘If you have good thoughts, they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely’ 🖤

  3. Ruth says:

    This couldn’t have arrived in my life at a better time! This is something I’m desperate to work on over the next few months, as I don’t think I’ve ever had much self confidence. I didn’t really know where to start, so thank you for the tips!! Also, as always, you look gooooorgeous.

  4. charlotteannelane103 says:

    These are all fab tips Alice! Changing your mindset is one of the hardest things to do, but when it does eventually start to change it’s the best feeling everr! I also find that complimenting yourself helps too – even if it’s something little like ‘I like my outfit/hair/makeup today’, it really does help 🙂 Great post xo

    Char | http://www.charslittleblog.co.uk

  5. CBT is so helpful and really challenges you to change the way you think – I need to remember to continue applying what I learnt from it to everyday life! I also love giving compliments, I can guarantee I say something nice about something someone’s wearing on a daily basis and I love seeing people’s faces light up 😊 great post Alice and you look beautiful in these shots ❤️❤️❤️

  6. Alice says:

    The more I here about CBT, the more I think it would really benefit me – I think I might have to try it out as I’m such a Negative Nancy to be honest. One of my favourite things to do is create a new make-up look or buy a fab new colour of lipstick to give myself a boost, so that’s such a good tip! It really does work. I definitely need to find an exercise I like doing as when I do exercise, I feel so much better about myself but I hate going to the gym haha! x

    Alice // http://www.accordingtoalicex.com

  7. hanmorris97 says:

    This is such an amazing post! I think part of my problem is not having a clear understanding of what I want to do or where I want to go. Which is something that I’m working on, so here’s hoping! I agree about the exercise too, it can be hard to start, but it tends to leave you feeling great afterwards. Thanks for sharing xx

    Hannah | luxuryblush

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