It’s been a while since I uploaded a lifestyle post and I’ve currently got quite a few in the works, too. I enjoy reading and writing self-help posts like these as I find everyone has different tips and even if they are similar, they are portrayed differently. I hope anyone struggling with their self confidence finds this useful!
We ALL have them. There’s a type of therapy called Cognitive Behavioural Therapy that I’ve had a few encounters with where the therapist tries to get you to look at the way you think about things and change it. For every negative thought you have, try to actively recognise it and change and challenge it to be a bit more positive. For example, “I feel ugly today” could be, “what makes me feel prettier?”, DO that thing. “I make so many mistakes” could be, “I’ve learned a lot of lessons from my mistakes and am constantly improving myself”, which is true – everybody makes mistakes but they teach us valuable lessons. “I can’t afford this thing that I really want” could be, “if I keep working hard, one day I’ll be able to afford this thing”. The mind is a powerful thing.
I think a lot of self-confidence issues can root from feeling like you don’t know who you are or where you’re headed. As human beings, ourselves and our paths are constantly changing and sometimes it’s important if we feel a bit lost to sit down and reaffirm our behaviours, priorities, morals and goals. This can make you feel a lot more positive about yourself and your life if you at least have a vision of what you want, who you are and what you have to offer.
This kind of ties in with the last one. I don’t think it’s essential to have a signature look as I dress differently all the time. Although I do think it’s important to have a look or style that you’re happy with. Your appearance should give you self confidence and if it doesn’t then you can change small things to help that. I don’t think people should feel like they have to dress a certain way for their figure but I’d definitely say to wear pieces that you personally feel compliment your body. If you go out in clothes that you don’t feel confident or comfortable in, it can ruin your outing because you feel like everyone is looking at you (trust me, I know).
Possibly experiment with something different in the makeup or hair area or even get yourself some new shoes! Even though no one else can see it, don’t underestimate the power of a new, well-fitting and sassy set of underwear, too. It’s surprising how small appearance changes can make you feel much better.
I’m ALL about self-acceptance just as you are. Saying that, nobody is perfect. If there are parts of you physically, mentally, personality-wise etc. that you think could be a little better then make a plan to improve them. Recognising your faults and working on yourself instead of saying “that’s just who I am” is an important part of maturing. Being an honest and all-round nicer person will make you feel much better about yourself.
Doing kind things in general does make us feel good and although it doesn’t make it completely selfless, who cares?! If you’re doing a good deed and it makes you feel good then it’s a winning situation for both parties. I uploaded a post a while containing some simple kindness acts here if you’d like a bit of inspiration. You don’t necessarily need money, paying compliments, supporting people, taking part in a charity event – the possibilities are endless. When someone has a kind act done for them, they also feel more inclined to pay it forward which is fabulous.
For some reason, a lot of people roll their eyes when you bring up exercise as a solution to something. I find most of these people have never actually tried thinking of it as a positive thing. Admittedly, It can be hard which is exactly why I’ve said to find an exercise you like. Running isn’t for everyone (I bloody hate it), so try a dance class or yoga. Exercising is an incredible thing for the body, it boosts your mood, reduces health risks and makes you feel like you’ve accomplished something. If your weight is an issue, it can also help improve that with the right diet, too.
Do you have any tips for improving self confidence?