I know this sounds like a pretty odd name for a post title as I think a lot of people have a signature style that they stick with. Trends come and go but you have your staple pieces, you have your staple outfits, look and style, whether that be bright and colourful, dark and daring or anything in-between. You know what you like and you know what you’d never be seen dead in.
Firstly, one thing that I think should be abolished in fashion is the rulebook of whether something ‘suits’ you. You shouldn’t wear this shaped dress if you’re curvy or you shouldn’t wear low cut tops if you’re at either end of the boob size spectrum. You shouldn’t wear this colour if you’re blonde or this colour if you’re dark. You shouldn’t wear this kind of trouser if you’re short and you shouldn’t wear a certain heel height if you’re tall. I mean, WHY shouldn’t you? I always think fashion is SUCH an individual thing and if you feel good in something, whether some stupid rule tells you that it’s ‘not for you’ or not, you should wear it and rock it.
I think one thing that people often forget is that a lot of the success of a look comes from the person who’s wearing its confidence. This is why I no longer wear anything that I feel is a bit too tight, a bit too short or just doesn’t look great as I spend the whole time feeling embarrassed, resulting in me consistently adjusting or hiding my outfit. Buy and wear things that YOU think look good on you, not what someone else says you’re supposed to wear.
For me, my style, my fashion and my appearance are a huge part of my identity. To a certain extent, I think that sounds quite vain but I use my appearance as a form of self-expression. Everything from my hair colour to my makeup to my tattoos to the chunky shoes I wear on my feet, pairing and wearing it is an art form in my opinion. Although I am a firm believer that confidence comes from the inside, mine is definitely at its best when I think I look good on the outside.
I guess the thing I’m struggling with currently, is what I actually want to say or portray with my appearance. It says a lot about a person and now I’m getting a bit older, I find myself simultaneously caring more and less about how I look. For example, despite being a huge beauty lover, I probably only wear makeup about once a week now. One of the main reasons being my skin has completely changed and tends to get really dry if I wear it too much. Another being that I no longer feel like I NEED to wear makeup to look nice. I do like to make sure I’m usually always wearing a nice outfit now though, if you catch me wearing something scraggly, chances are I’m really not feeling well that day.
However, back in my college days I used to force myself to get up an hour early to apply makeup every single day but would go around wearing clothes that looked like I’d just picked them out of a bin (emo life). It’s not that I’ve lost interest in beauty as I have a LOT more experience and interest in it now. I never even used to have a moisturiser back then, let alone a 5 step skincare routine. I’m 10 times better at applying makeup now and my product collection has also grown from a makeup bag to a set of drawers and a vanity case full.
One thing I do have to say has stayed consistent is my love for Adexe watches! They’ve just released their Miniature Sistine collection and it is BEYOND gorgeous. It’s especially brilliant for those that want a dainty and feminine but luxury accessory with a decent price point, starting from £79. I’m wearing the Mini Sistine Rose Gold and Black style here and it looks absolutely fabulous if I do say so myself! You can get 15% off of your purchase with Adexe by using the code BLACKTULIP15. I also think it goes so gorgeously next to this cute little rose gold bar bracelet from Inefabless which reads “I love you to the moon and back”.
I think a big part of it is the fact that my tastes have really changed over the past year or two and I feel like I’m not sure where exactly I fit anymore. Ever since I was around 12 I’ve strayed from the path with who I am. Because I was idolising rock stars instead of pop stars, I wanted to dress like them instead which resulted in me sticking to dark colours and oversized clothes all the time. I remember it even got to the point that I THREW OUT my Blink-182 tour t-shirt because it was red and I didn’t want to wear anything that wasn’t black. Yes, I really regret it now because I loved that shirt and it holds great memories.
I always sort of stuck to that style and if I’m completely honest, I’ve always been really insecure about my weight so wearing black all the time was so much easier for me as it never accentuated anything I didn’t want it to. I’d probably say my tastes started to change about 2 years back, I began to buy more patterned and colourful clothes and wearing them alongside other black items and Dr Martens to still punk them up a bit.
I’m not entirely sure how or why it’s happened but my wardrobe has gone from being black, grey and red to being every colour and pattern you could probably imagine in one place. It’s gone from black skinny jeans and band tshirts to flowy leopard print midi skirts, rainbow striped culottes and embroidered heart jumpers. I still have some really lovely punky pieces that I wear regularly and I like to think even when I do wear some more girly pieces, I style them a bit differently to make them more “me”.
Despite currently being really confused about my style identity, I’ve found that I’m actually so much happier wearing funkier clothes. I love pairing up clashing prints and colours that aren’t meant to go together but just weirdly do. I think there’s more pressure as a blogger to have a ‘signature style’ or a consistent theme that doesn’t waiver as its usually what your followers/readers want to see.
Saying that, my style has changed massively over the time I’ve been blogging and despite definitely losing a few people along the way, I’ve gained a lot more that I think actually appreciate the inconsistency as it’s sort of a surprise and you’re never quite sure what to expect from me.
I guess my next step in this journey is accepting that I don’t fit under a heading or into a box anymore which is a really good thing. I love being individual and I love being unapologetically me!
Do you have a consistent personal style identity or just go with the flow with your fashion choices?
’Til Next Time,
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