I feel like a lot of the time I upload lifestyle posts, I’m complaining. Probably because I am. For that reason and for the reason I am actually generally a pretty positive person, I thought I’d write this. Some little things I have or am trying to incorporate into my every day life to improve my happiness and that of others. Some of these are quite obvious but you’d be surprised at how many people let it slip their mind until they’re reminded. So here’s your reminder of little ways to improve your life, enjoy!
1. Be honest & consistent.
By nature I’m proud to say I’m an honest person anyway. It comes naturally to me as that’s the way I’ve been nurtured but I know it doesn’t for a lot of people. By simply being honest, you relieve yourself of the stress of keeping up with stories and false appearances. Even if you’ve already been dishonest, it’s not too late to admit that and start again. You’ll be respected a lot more in the long run. As for consistency, I can’t think of a single person who wouldn’t want consistency from the relationships in their life. Again, I know it doesn’t come naturally for a lot of people but with a little effort, you’ll reap the rewards.
2. Let the little things go.
I’m not one to hold a grudge unless someone has purposely done something to really hurt me. With every day things that p*ss me off or are a little hurtful, I tend to leave it 24 hours and if I’m still hurt or upset, then it is no longer classed as a “little thing” and obviously needs discussion. If however I’m not really bothered anymore, I just let it go. It’s not worth the hassle or the stress of carrying on an argument with someone you love. I think a big part of growing up is realising that the people you love will hurt you unintentionally because of a bad day or a bad situation but it doesn’t mean they don’t care.
3. Don’t reply to messages or post on social media when you’re angry or upset.
This kind of goes hand in hand with the last point. I can’t tell you the amount of times I’ve seen on Facebook a couple or friends get in a pointless argument that blows up. Suddenly every one of their secrets is plastered all over social media, then the next day it’s all deleted and they’re baking a cake together. I like to think if they’d just taken some time out to let the situation cool down before responding or posting something they quite clearly regret, then all of their friends would not know how many people so and so have slept with. Or they wouldn’t have to do the Facebook “walk of shame” when they re-instate their relationship status on there for the fifth time that month.
4. Donate to a cause you care about.
One of my favourites! This won’t directly improve your life but it will improve someone or something elses. This will indirectly improve yours if you feel good about it. Everyone has a hobby, a love for animals, someone close to them battling an illness and the list goes on. If you’re in a position where you can even donate £1 a month, it DOES make a difference for the charity and the work they do. E.g. for a dogs shelter, that’s probably a days food for one of their little furry pals. It’s nice to be nice and it’ll make you feel good!
5. Check up on people that are important to you and make an effort.
Life can get hectic and we can forget sometimes to drop the people we care about a simple “how are you?”. We can even talk to them daily and still not think to ask because we just assume that they’d tell us if something was wrong. This is totally not the case a lot of the time, especially if they’re struggling. Showing a bit of effort and care goes a long way, especially if they’re not doing so well. Ask to meet up or send them a little encouragement card in the post if you’re able to.
6. Do a bit more exercise.
A lot of people probably read this one and sighed. As someone who has suffered quite badly with their mental health, I can 100% confirm this has really helped me. It doesn’t have to be a 10km run or an hour long gym session, I find around a half an hour dog walk daily is good for me. It gets the endorphins flowing, allows for some thinking time to myself and gets me some fresh air, too. If i’m having a super anxious day but feel like I need to get out, I shove my earphones in too to help combat it. I genuinely usually have the best ideas and inspiration come to me whilst on walks, too.
7. Improve your life by trying new things, even if they scare you.
I’m not gonna drone on with the phrase “do something that scares you everyday” because if we’re being honest, that’s just not do-able for the majority of people. I’d just say if the opportunity arises and you can take it then SAY YES. Life begins when you step outside of your comfort zone, as they say. Starting this blog and sharing it with people made me absolutely terrified but look where I am now! I can honestly say it’s one of the best things I have ever done. Join a club, pick up a new hobby or go skydiving, why the hell not.
8. Stay out of other peoples arguments if they do not involve you.
This is pretty self-explanatory. Why get involved? Why cause yourself unnecessary stress? Avoid the drama. Let the people actually involved sort it out. Just stroll past it.
9. If you think something nice about someone, tell them.
This is something I’ve been specifically trying to do, especially on social media. I feel like sometimes people feel embarrassed paying others compliments because for some reason it’s become weird to be nice without a motive. I know how amazing it makes me feel receiving a random compliment and what does it cost you? Absolutely nothing other than the 10 seconds it takes to say/type it. Also, if you open up to other people about the nice things you think about them, they might just do it back. Yay friendship.
10. “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothin’ at all” – Thumper, Bambi.
Relating to the last one but the complete opposite. If you have a negative comment or opinion, why say it out loud? Don’t cause unneccessary hurt to someone. If you really have to let it out, write it on a piece of paper and throw it in the bin. Or maybe just put yourself in the other persons shoes and think about how it’d make you feel if you had something similar said to you. Not everyone has a thick skin and not everyone is happy in theirselves. When you’re already lacking confidence, one rude comment can push you into isolation. Unless you’re a very odd/cruel person, putting someone else down will not make you feel good.
Well, there are my 10 things to improve your life! Gradually incorporating these small things have really helped me to be more positive in my life and myself. Generally doing more kind things for other people makes me feel good, which is what this was based on. I hope you found this useful in any way. Try one of them, or a few, or them all and let me know how you get on!